Overcoming emotional turbulence πŸ˜Š

Here is what I faced for the past three weeks:

From the second day of my joining, this person under whom I was working throw book in front of me to write notes which he dictates.

I am a newbie, open to learn, provided I am given correct instructions and time to learn. But, I can’t learn from a person who is harsh towards me on my doubts.

Per some people in company, he is a good person and this is his nature towards people under him and ones who are not very rich, and I have to hear it through one ear and give it off through other ear 😊

He is good enough to give me transportation on two days a week (thank you sir) where I have to sit in office in his freezy room in rainy days wondering what I could learn from seeing and hearing the phone calls he make for sales. He says I should learn from seeing and hearing. Okay I agree partially 😊

Per some people whom I talked to regarding his nature, told me to accept his egoistic nature and please him to work there (I wonder how).

Two weeks back, I got cold and cough and he told me I should stay away from him, else he catch my cold. I accepted it and kept a distance. My cold got better next day with few cups of dried ginger coffee. Next day, from other employees, I came to know he caught fever, vomiting and indigestion. He was leave for two days. Is it my mistake or almighty’s play?

One employee got a thrash on his hand for not remembering tea estate name with an aluminium tray which holds tea dust/leaves to compare tea appearance. The tray is light weight, but has sharp ends and he got a mark on his hand. It happened years back. The senior person reminds me every time in tea tasting room I will have the same experience if I make mistake in remembering tea estate name or not hold the tray properly (I can’t learn and focus in a fear inflicting environment). That employee didn’t react as he hardly needed the job.

I talked with management frankly about these as I feared I will get thrashed anytime and how I will react to it. They said me I should not take all these personally and leave happily. They paid me remuneration and I left for the good of me and company.

Except this particular person, all others were good to me. I have no hard feelings towards anyone or company. I am trying my best to overcome the emotional turbulence I faced due to this particular person.

Note: I respect the age of this person and his knowledge in tea. He is the best tea taster and is very important to company and tea industry. I am not saying his name or company’s name as I value them, their reputation and family. I can patiently forget this with time. Writing is my stress buster, so I am writing this down. Also, I want young people to know you may or may not face these type experiences in tea industry and it’s your choice to accept it and grow or react boldly and grow. Remember, we are citizens of independent India 😊

35 thoughts on “Overcoming emotional turbulence πŸ˜Š

  1. Such a old established company don’t know how to train people. If one is arrogant he must be taught a lesson on board level. Means it’s not ideal for professionals to grow. No wonder they are still under the shadow of rotton up British ego system. Why not accept the best of British and leave the bad part…. No answers. Write to the tea board or administration about mis behavior and attitude. They must be notified. You can’t say yes sir to all. Also if you are in India or else where work ethics remain with good moral and conducts. Pls notify all their directors even though they trash out your papers for sure. Write this on Twitter and send to corporate affairs ministry to notify. You will see the reaction ensure add up pmo.

  2. Already notified their directors. They apologized for this. Will think well and write to tea board and corporate affairs ministry as you suggested. Thanks for the support and suggestions πŸ˜ŠπŸ™

  3. I had faced such things when I was in IT, and I thought -“why am I living like a slave when I have good options to choose?”

    Sad to know you had such experience. A kind and generous person like you deserve great things in life. Hope everything gets alright soon chechi πŸ’™

  4. Experiences are what moulds our life to the fullest. Especially bitter experiences because it will have a great lesson to teach. Thank the bitter experiences that makes you bold. Thanks for sharing this story. This is inspiring one, in the context that you were never ever ready to sacrifice your self pride for a job. You were sharp enough to hope for the best. Courageous.πŸ€©πŸ’–πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ˜Š

  5. Despite some musical tastes, I never identified with the West, but I offer through me a humble apology for this collective situation. I second Tushara, I thank also all others in the company for being good to you, and I pray patience your way, my dear. Divine patience and gratitude for all πŸ’œπŸ™

    1. Thanks dear Leon πŸ˜Šβ€πŸ™ During train journey yesterday, I was able to medidate and I realised it’s all divine play to experience the fruits of past Karmas for me and for that particular person. Though I never intended to hurt anyone, I do have to react when all remain silent and submissive over many years. I am thankful to good British people for all the good things like tea plantations, educational institutions, churches, architecture, etc. they gave India, but I can’t tolerate the nature of some old British people to treat employees like slaves, not treating them with dignity and mutual respect. Many in tea industry still follows that type of British behaviour towards employees. I reacted to this behaviour. Some people hold these feelings in heart and burst out last in violence, which is common in Northern part of India. Harsh behaviour towards employees is one of the reasons for lack of tea pluckers in Indian tea gardens, which in turn largely affected the quality of tea. Tea is the product of tears, sweat and blood of many innocent people. Love and gratitude for those souls πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™ All divine plays. Lord plays the role through him, me, and all according to divine law. Love and gratitude to all πŸ˜ŠπŸ™β€

      1. I used this word twice above, my dear, instead of β€œstrength”, as I didn’t want to provoke, and because your courageous heart knows that patience is a prerequisite for taking action with integrity. I bow before you and thank the Almighty for your presence here with us. πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

  6. I am very sorry You had this experience, Krishna; but am VERY happy You shared it and are receiving such loving thoughts. SO good to process and let it go. I never am able to understand people who behave in that manner. They seem deeply wounded to me on a heart level. I dunno. You maintained Your wonderful Grace throughout and took care of Yourself. Not much more that You could have done. Nice to let others know, just in case they choose that path. Sending You huge hugs. Thank You for sharing! πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

  7. We always learn from each lesson on this conditional world, good or bad. It has allowed you to be stronger within yourself, speak your truth and even express everything here on your blog which in itself is a healing for what you have faced.
    Now you are more wiser, courageous and even have more faith in what you are becoming. Give thanks to those people, especially the ‘bad’ ones as they are the ones that help you through your fears. And in breaking through those you will discover a love like no other…yours! πŸ™‚

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