A NO is always NO

Before writing this, I thought multiple times, but I felt to write this. This is about a boy. I am not saying his name here. He liked my blog posts and I liked his blog posts back too and he contacted me and told me to collaborate for a poem and I wrote it. It was a romantic poem. Later he tried to become friends with me and emailed me and we started connecting through emails. Within a few days, I found few things inappropriate and I told him I am much older than him and tried to tell things calmly and in decent tone. Though he changed his way of mails, he still was creepy and I put his email as spam. Again, after few months, he is back and again mailed me to give him my Whatsapp number without any excuse. I felt it highly inappropriate. Why can’t people understand if someone is not interested to communicate with you to stay away from them? Respect other people’s space and privacy

43 thoughts on “A NO is always NO

  1. More useful is for you to stop thinking about it. You have and can continue to do what you need wrt blocking / marking it to spam etc. But how he responds or behaves is never in your control. When we accept inappropriate behaviour for what it is and simultaneously protect ourselves against it. It is easier to then stop dwelling on it. To not allow it to invade our silent attention. To be without the waves of thought that would form around this situation

    The problem at the manifest level is relatively easier to address. But at the unmanifest personal level, what happens within us in how we respond to the world is what takes us away from our own inner silence, within which everything is more clear

    Just sharing from experience because this is how we all get affected by situations

    1. Thanks for understanding. It is a boy who is 15 years younger than me. I advised him through replies and messages in a friendly way and when I found him creepy, I blocked him. I really can’t agree people taking spirituality as a way to exploit other people which happens a lot in India and there are always people who say to be silent to them, ignore them, etc. Only when one oneself go through such experience, one realize is it always possible to remain silent. Only women and few men can understand things like this. Others can simply advice 😊

  2. It is sad Krishna. I wonder what is hard to understand with a simple 2 letter word. I also think its better to pen these thoughts too. Kind of giving logical end to the thought process.

    1. I too don’t understand the nature of some people. Thank you dear Smitha for understanding what I wrote and the support. Blessed Sunday and Happy Mahanavami πŸ˜ŠπŸ’•

  3. Yikes. I am so sorry, Krishna. He will eventually get bored and go away…but I’ve experienced that and can empathise!!! Spamming and just not responding worked for me. And sending them light and hopes that they find an outlet that is healthier and more for the highest good of All!!! πŸ€—β€οΈπŸ™πŸΌ!

  4. Dear Krischnapriya ,
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      1. Thank you dearest Leon πŸ˜ŠπŸ’•β€οΈπŸ™πŸΌ Thank you so much for the beautiful song. I love Westerners and their open and kind attitudes. Western always treated me good only. But in India, in some places and with some people, it is dangerous to be open and kind. Many a time, I experienced it. Here, we need to be very strict to some people as some men are very egoistic and from their childhood grew up with the attitude than women has to be in their control and they have to protect women and should not give them freedom to express themselves, especially in Hindu and Muslim families. In my own family too, I, my mother, and sister faced it from elders and I say them things clearly and boldly. A granny from my father’s side taught me when I was 15 not to always cry, but be strong and say things openly. So, I do so as and when needed. I don’t keep anger towards anyone. I try to be silent and patient, but when things repeat, I just react. That’s all 😊

  5. If it’s bordering on stalking, you simply act as appropriate.
    Sometimes, people don’t get it and he might be simply not realizing that it’s not decent to bother somebody else when they clearly have requested him to stay away. That happens and it can be so that you might have to take some steps to prevent the unwanted communication.

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