Tathātā (/ˌtætəˈtɑː/; Sanskrit romanised: tathātā; Pali romanised: tathatā) is a Buddhist term variously translated as “thusness” or “suchness” and meaning the true, concrete essence or nature of things beyond ideas or words. It is a central concept in Mahayana Buddhism, having a particular significance in Chan Buddhism as well. The synonym dharmatā is also often used.
After being silently observing and giving chances and seeing no change in the behaviour of some people, I have blocked them from my life completely and very few partially. I may continue to do so until I learn to stay unaffected by anything or anyone. I hold certain values very strongly – like authenticity, sincerity, openness, honesty, self-responsibility, and no gossip talks about anyone. Compromising these values for anyone put me in lots of stress and I decided not to compromise these values for anyone even though they are very much dear to me. Yes, I feel much sadness in doing so, but I do so without hating anyone. I talk openly and tell them what I could not compromise and after seeing no change, I accept the person as it is without expecting a change in them. Those particular things may be right for them and they do not find anything wrong in their behaviour and may be absolutely fine with it. Let it be. I respect that. Initially, I feel pain in heart to move away, but also I do not feel to lose peace of mind, time, and energy for such behaviours and I just move away without any arguments. It’s ok you can judge me like whatever you wish to. I learnt not to care such judgements.
Even though I move away from them physically, in my heart, I hold them dear and pray for their good and sometimes think about the good memories I had with them. Thus, slowly I come out of the grief I feel by parting from them.
Now, more and more, I am enjoying solitude and silence and feels it is important to me like breathing 🙂